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Rape Culture and Victim Blaming with Chidera Dimaka

March 17, 2021 • Whytli Rogers • Episode 87

*TRIGGER WARNING*
This is a heavier episode as we speak of rape and sexual assault. If you are a survivor of abuse or sexual assault, please listen with caution or skip this episode entirely. The last thing I would want is for hearing these things to set you back in your healing journey or trigger negative thoughts or emotions. Please practice self care, reach out to a trusted love one, and/or CALL the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE(4673).

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Chidera Dimaka is a Nigerian podcaster currently living in Poland. During the week, she works at an IT firm as a service process controller. On her podcast, Rants With Chidera, she shares her thoughts and insights about all things adulthood, social issues, and self help topics. She's also a survivor of sexual assault.

In this episode, Chidera shares her story publicly for the first time ever. After she was sexually assaulted multiple times, she found great healing in hearing other #MeToo stories. Others' stories helped her realize that what happened to her wasn't consensual nor okay and that it wasn't her fault. At one point, she internalized rape culture and the victim blaming that follows suit but now speaks out against the harmful things in society that contribute to the normalizing of rape.

We cover the following points:

Chidera's story & encounters of sexual assault
The power of sharing your #MeToo stories
What rape culture entails
How rape culture has affected both of us
Victim blaming
Consent Education

Tune in to hear her story!!

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Resources:

Book: Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft
RAINN - Rape, Abuse, & Incest National Network
We Are HER - Foundation supporting survivors of domestic abuse & sexual violence
Honey Is Here - Organization for survivors of sexual trauma

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Connect with Chidera & her work:

Instagram:
- @chidybangs_
- @rwcpodcast
Podcast: Rants With Chidera - RWC Podcast

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